
Wednesday, December 26, 2007
Ignorance as a form of oppression

Friday, December 21, 2007
Bush is a National Hero?

- Betraying his oath to uphold and defend the Constitution (the North American Union, The Patriot Act, The Military Commissions Act)
- Being WRONG on innumerable issues affecting the security of the U.S. (Iraq, Iran, immigration and border security, kowtowing to Israel).
- Being lax in enforcing Immigration laws.
- Lying and distorting intelligence to justify an immoral war with one country and trying to do it again with another, to satisfy and "ally" (Israel) who only has its own best interests in mind.
- Consistently appointing to federal office right-wing fanatics with little or no qualification for that office, and with demonstrable conflicts of interest because they are willing to put loyalty to him and to the Party ahead of the interests of the American people: Brown at FEMA, Wolfowitz at the World Bank, Gonzo at DOJ, most cabinet department heads, the Supreme Court, to name a few.
- Sacrificing the health and safety of the American people by gutting the budgets of those agencies that are supposed to protect us (like the FDA).
- Insisting on a level of secrecy appropriate to fascist dictatorships, not a republic devoted to freedom and justice, under the pretext of "national security" and invoking executive privilege to protect himself and his flunkies from the consequences of their criminal activities.
- Pushing for the privatization of government services for the benefit of his corporate masters and to the detriment of the American people.
- Rendering people to secret prisons in foreign countries known to engage in torture (even though those secret prisons are located on American military bases, which essentially makes them American soil, just like embassies, and means that any torture being conducted there is being done by Americans--or American agents, which amounts to the same thing).
- Denying proper medical care to our troops exposed to "Gulf War Syndrome" (the result of exposure to depleted uranium shells, chemical and biological weapons fallout, and experimental vaccines).
- Exposing our captured soldiers and citizens abroad to the risk of torture because he has violated the Geneva Conventions through his own use of torture (and yes, water boarding IS torture).
- Pulling the United States out of the International Criminal Court to protect himself and his own family from lawsuits brought by holocaust survivors (or their descendants) for war crimes committed by his grandfather, Prescott Bush, and the crimes for which he, himself, is responsible.
- Making Americans hated and feared around the world because of our obvious imperialistic ambitions (college students travelling through Europe now mark their backpacks with the Canadian maple leaf instead of the American flag), which is openly reported on in the foreign press, but almost never mentioned in our media.
- Touting his "service" in the Air National Guard spot Daddy got him, then forcing out of a job the guy (Dan Rather) with the guts to take a hard look at that service record.
There is so much more than this list is barely scratching the surface, but it's enough to see that there is SOMETHING nefarious and decidedly un-American going on, and we need to do something about it NOW.
Friday, December 14, 2007
The Death Penalty is NOT About Justice

Sunday, December 9, 2007
Birds of a Feather
Take our "president," for example. The MIC-owned media, and even Bush himself, try to paint our president as a champion of freedom and democracy, but his actions and associations paint a very different picture. Our country has been heading toward fascism for decades, but his administration has carried the agenda forward with astonishing speed, and the world leaders he considers his best friends and allies preside over some of the most repressive regimes on the planet. The one that comes to mind first is Saudi Arabia.
That the Bush family has long-standing ties to the bin Laden clan is a well-documented fact, and the bin Ladens are very close to the Saudi royal family, being one of, it not the, largest construction firms in that country. So how much of a coincidence can it be that we trained, equipped and funded one of the family scions in his fight against the Russians in Afghanistan? (Personally, given the US's penchant for turning allies into enemies--Noriega, Saddam, Osama, to name just a few--I'm amazed that we can get anyone to be our friends. It seems to me that it would be a little like grabbing on to a two-edged sword held by someone with Parkinson's--sooner or later, you're going to lose some fingers.) The fact that the Saudi government is extremely repressive to it's people is also a well-documented fact. It practices one of the "purest" forms of Islam and prides itself on how severely it punishes crimes and subjugates its women. The Saudi clan has been Wahhabi since the family married into the sect in 1774. Now why is it that it's ok for the Saudis to belong to the Wahhabi sect, when the Taliban was so vilified for it in Afghanistan?
Remember the flak in the press (short-lived as it was) about the Saudis giving money to the family of suicide bombers who killed Americans? And that 14 of the 19 hijackers on 9/11 were Saudi? And that it was Saudi Arabia who imposed the oil embargo that caused such a crisis here in the 70's? And that there is as much, if not more, state-sponsored terror coming out of Riyadh than out of Tehran? And let's not forget Osama.
I can't think of a single reason we would have these people as allies, when everything their religion teaches and their government practices is so completely opposite from everything our country is supposed to stand for, unless it's because our president's thinking is right in line with theirs. Oh yeah, I forgot: it's the oil. Except for the fact that, if he wasn't a short-sighted, greedy bastard of an oil baron himself, he could put the vast resources of the US government to work to find alternatives so that we could free ourselves of the need for foreign oil, thereby freeing ourselves from the need to kowtow to the producers of that oil. But that would actually strengthen our national security, and wouldn't serve the agenda of control through fear that this Administration finds so useful, would it?
But it's not just George Jr--it's the whole family:
Brother Jeb got Daddy to pardon his friend, Orlando Bosch, when he was accused of killing 76 people in Cuba by blowing up a plane, and Columba, Jeb's wife, got away with merely being embarrassed when she was caught smuggling nearly $20,000 worth of clothing and jewelry into the country from France.
Brother Neil--Mom donated money to the victims of Katrina, but only if the money was used to buy computers from Neil's comany.
Uncle Prescott Jr., who owned the only company allowed to do business in China (exporting communications satellites) and had ties to Manuel Noriega (I'm assuming that was before we decided he was public enemy number one and invaded his country to remove him, but who knows for sure?)
Grandpa Bush managed to not only avoid prosecution for giving aid and comfort to an enemy during wartime (otherwise known as treason) but managed to get himself elected a Senator for the State of New York. Some reports say there is no evidence that Prescott Bush supported the Nazi agenda, but to me that would make him even more of a soulless bastard. Claiming it was "just business" isn't much of a defense when that "business" funds the murder of millions and people and the terrorizing into mute silence of millions more.
So the next time our President gets on TV, look past the baby face and innocent demeanor to the monster lurking behind the mask. Look past his public statements and ridiculous rhetoric to his actual record. Look to who he hangs with and considers his buddies, and look to his family. What more do you need to know?
Thursday, December 6, 2007
The Greatest Trick the Devil Ever Pulled

Wednesday, December 5, 2007
If At First You Don't Succeed


(The Bush family's involvement in politics goes back much further than most Americans realize. Mama Bush's grandfather was Franklin Pierce, who was widely regarded was the worst president ever until George. And as I've pointed out elsewhere, Grandpa Bush managed to avoid prosecution for treason and become elected as a New York Senator.)
Look at these parallels:
- The Reichstag fire was officially blamed on communists and resulted in the passage of the Enabling Act which suspended certain constitutional rights; the attack on the WTC and Pentagon was blamed on Islamic terrorists and resulted in the the passage of the USA PATRIOT Act, which virtually suspended the same constitutional rights.
- Hitler used his power to declare war on his neighbors under the pretense of protecting German interests; Bush used his power to declare war on anyone who was "against us."
- Hitler had his "good Germans" to support him, even when his abuses had become obvious to anyone with half a brain (I mean, how could you live near a death camp and not recognize the smell of burning human flesh?); Bush has his "patriotic Americans," who toe the party line, even when the smell has risen sky high.
- Hitler valued loyalty more than education, experience, or connection to reality; Bush values loyalty more than eduction, experience or qualifications for the position to which he is appointing them.
Now, when you use the Google to search for parallels between Bush and Nixon, you get 12,700,000 hits. The newest connection is the CIA's destruction of two interrogation tapes, which immediately reminded me of the mysterious 18-minute gap in the Watergate tapes. Forget the fact that destroying those two tapes was probably illegal as part of the material requested by Congressional investigators--it was DUMB. I can't be the only one that made the connection between the CIA tapes and the Watergate recordings, can I? With all of the speculatory connections being made between this Administration and the criminal cabal over which Nixon presided, why would anyone with any sense at all want to make tangible connections?
But there is one thing you have to give Nixon credit for: I doubt Nixon's press secretary would have ever done anything as stupid as Dana Perino's admission that she didn't know anything about the Cuban Missile Crisis. I mean, she is the spokesperson for the White House and she is admitting ignorance about something of such profound importance? Shouldn't the Administration's mouthpiece know at least a little something about an event that brought our country to the brink of nuclear war? I know it happened before she was born, but I was hardly out of diapers myself and I know more about it than that it happened in Cuba and was some kind of crisis. Didn't she have to take some kind of history class somewhere along the way to becoming White House Press Secretary? Ron Zeigler must be spinning in his grave.
Monday, December 3, 2007
For the Record

Sunday, December 2, 2007

Friday, November 30, 2007
To Uphold and Defend the Constitution...

The Fourth Amendment says that: "The right of the people to be secure in their persons, houses, papers, and effects, against unreasonable searches and seizures, shall not be violated, and no warrants shall issue, but upon probable cause, supported by oath or affirmation, and particularly describing the place to be searched, and the persons or things to be seized."
Thursday, November 29, 2007
Cults and Religion

Wednesday, November 28, 2007
So What?

I know, the fundamentalist fanatics who are hijacking our values and using them for political gain say that being gay is a sin and "God hates fags," but like I've said before, I challenge any of them to point to any scripture to defend their position. Jesus never said one word about gays. In fact, he would have to have known that the Roman soldiery at large engaged in homosexual sex routinely but he healed the servant of a Roman centurion anyway. And it's interesting to note that by "servant" we should read "body servant" which presupposed that that servant be available for sex among his other duties. Being a man of his times and aware of the proclivities of the Romans who ruled his world at the times he would had to have known that the servant he was healing was, per force, gay, but he healed the man anyway, because of the centurion's faith in Him. So what does that say about his views on homosexuality? Along the same line, abortion existed in his culture as well, but he never said anything about that, either, did he?
As for gays in the military, the most feared military force ever known (the Spartans) were culturally gay--men and women were almost entirely segregated. They were all required to marry but they did not live together. The men would visit their wives in order to produce children to feed the war machine. In fact, older men were required to select a boy in training and mentor him in all things Spartan, which included sex.
And look at how many of these so-called Religious Right nuts waging their campaigns of hate and fear are turning out to be gay, themselves (Foley, comes to mind right away). Kind of reminds me of J. Edgar Hoover, spouting off about gays being such a threat to our national security, while he was spending weekends as a cross-dresser. Why do you listen to such hypocrites? Why do you care what goes on in anyone else's private life? Maybe you have so much time to be so concerned for my soul because you aren't spending enough time working on your own?
Monday, November 26, 2007
Patriotism

Saturday, November 24, 2007
Americans Don't Read

Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the government for a redress of grievances.
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
Render Unto Caesar

And look at what has happened every time people (even decent, deeply faithful, well-intentioned people) have let their Church take over the Government. The best known and most often cited example is the Inquisition which led to the deaths of thousands of people, but there are other examples as well. For all its anti-religious posturing, the Communists made a quasi religion of its atheist beliefs and killed countless thousands in the name of stamping out the "opiate of the masses."
Aside from all of that is the simple fact that those who would put themselves forward as leaders, should be better than those they would lead. Read Matthew 7:15-23--15 “Beware of the false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly are ravenous wolves. 16 “You will know them by their fruits. Grapes are not gathered from thorn bushes nor figs from thistles, are they? 17 “So every good tree bears good fruit, but the bad tree bears bad fruit. 18 “A good tree cannot produce bad fruit, nor can a bad tree produce good fruit. 19 “Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. 20 “So then, you will know them by their fruits. 21 “Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father who is in heaven will enter. 22 “Many will say to Me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in Your name, and in Your name cast out demons, and in Your name perform many miracles?’ 23 “And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; DEPART FROM ME, YOU WHO PRACTICE LAWLESSNESS.’"
Also read Matthew 7:1-5--1 “Do not judge so that you will not be judged. 2 “For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you. 3 “Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? 4 “Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ and behold, the log is in your own eye? 5 “You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye."
With all the corruption rampant in our government (not that it's anything new, just more public), why should we support any of our so-called leaders? And with all of the scandals coming out of the evangelical leadership, why should we listen to anything they have to say about the way we should live? And why should we let the two camps merge to form a theocracy that will rob us of not only our money but our spiritual salvation? To the Pat Robertsons and Ted Haggards and George Bushes of the world, I would say this: get your own house in order, before you come and tell me how to order mine.
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
State Department's Private Army
Amidst all the talk of troop levels in Iraq, there is one fact that gets little or no attention: there are as many (if not more) private security forces in Iraq than there are actual soldiers. We could pull out every one of our soldiers and there would still be more than 100,000 troops there, they just don't wear the uniform or take the oath that our soldiers do. What I want to know is why are they there? What services are they actually providing, other than guarding our ambassadors and killing Iraqi civilians? Why does our State Department trust them more than they (obviously) trust our soldiers? Why was it necessary to write a blanket immunity for these mercenaries into the Iraqi constitution?
I think that we, as Americans, need to start asking these questions and demanding answers, and not be intimidated by the prospect of having our patriotism and support of our military questioned for demanding those answers.
Sunday, November 18, 2007
Homeless for the Holidays
It's a nice image isn't it? But it, like so much in our culture today, it's as fake as the plastic money we use to obtain it all. Behind this "all's right with the world" picture is a grim reality: suicide rates sky rocket this time of year and every year, there are yet more people for whom the "holidays" mean little more than another bitter reminder of how far they are from where they should be.
Keep in mind, while you are gorging on turkey and watching football or the parade, or celebrating with the people who matter most to you, that there are people out whose turkey and trimmings will come from a soup kitchen, eaten amongst strangers, provided by strangers trying to assuage their guilt at having so much when others have so little.
And don't believe the government figures on just how many homeless there are in this country. The statistics are rigged to include only the most obvious--those who are actually sleeping on the sidewalks or in the parks or in the shelters. It doesn't include those who live in "transient housing," which includes places like cheap motels, rooming houses and the couches of friends and/family, from which they can be tossed into the street at any given moment. And no one has any valid estimates of the number of people who are one or two paychecks away from being homeless but I would guess that, if we did manage to come up with an estimate, it is frighteningly high.
As for giving to any of the organized charities--don't, unless you know personally that whatever charity you are giving to actually serves the people it says it does. So many of them spend much more on "administrative costs" (i.e., their own salaries and the costs of maintaining their nice offices) than they do helping the poor that they don't deserve the name "charity." And those who won't even make the negligible effort of writing a check without a compensatory bribe (tax deduction), are as bad as those who give nothing. If you really want to be charitable, give directly to those you want to help--it doesn't have to be money; food, blankets, warm clothing, one night in a motel where they can take a shower and sleep in an actual bed could be the difference between life or death in places where winter months are bitter cold.
That there are any homeless in this country at all is a disgrace. That so many of them are men and women who put their own well-being, their very lives, at risk so that we can enjoy our holidays in peace and safety is a disgrace beyond reckoning. That we spend so much money around the world to relieve the suffering of people we will never meet, while ignoring the plight of those we pass on the street every day, is a cruel joke.
So, while you are celebrating the season, take a moment to think of those who have nothing, and do something to make a difference in their life.
Friday, November 16, 2007
Voting as an Obligation

Thursday, November 15, 2007
Practice Run in Pakistan?
It makes an appalling and grim kind of sense when you think about it. When they latched onto 9-11 as the vehicle for launching their New World Order, for turning their think-tank generated, fascist, ideological daydreams into real-life nightmares for the rest of us, they made a lot of mistakes, for which they are now being called to account. Albeit, the call to account isn't being made with the force it deserves, and the penalties are likely to be far short of anything we would consider just and appropriate (like impeachment proceedings and trials for war crimes), but we should probably be grateful that it's being made at all.
Coming so close to realizing their dreams, however briefly, I doubt these people are going to abandon them because they got caught. A vision cherished so dearly for so long isn't given up without a fight (two steps forward, one back is still considered progress), it just goes underground again--or is tried out through proxies. Let some other country work out the kinks and pay the price for failure; when they get it right, you copy the playbook and run the plays yourself. It's a classic risk management strategy, something our CEO-infested government understands--much better than it understands our "quaint" attachment to the Constitution and the rights as American citizens under that Constitution.
I think we should follow the events in Pakistan closely. And we shouldn't rely on MSM for our information--we should check out what is being reported online, from around the world. The things you get from outside the US are usually much more informative and unbiased than anything MSM tells us. And keep in the back of your head this question: could it happen here? And don't kid yourself--once upon a time, the idea that the United States would emulate some of the worst abuses ever attributed to the Soviet Union or Communist China (spying on its own citizens, renditions, torture) was absolutely unthinkable, too, yet has become a fact of life for us.
Wednesday, November 14, 2007
9-11 or 911?
Think about it: out of the 365 days of the year those terrorists could have chosen for their attack, they picked that particular day? I mean, the only difference between 9-11 and 911 is a single hyphen--what are the odds? And I find it hard to believe that anyone who could plan and carry out something of that magnitude, with so many details to manage and coordinate, would simply pick a date at random, don't you? I think that if you are going to use an event to send a message, it makes a greater impact if you include the date as part of the message, right? Like bombing a shopping mall at Christmas to protest the way our sacred days have been reduced to designated shopping days dressed up in hollow rituals.
So what would be the message? Why would someone fly planes into buildings primarily occupied by companies whose primary focus was money, on 9-11? Could it be that whoever it was (and I'm not convinced it was bin Laden--the only evidence we have is a video that I think is extremely suspect) was trying to send us a wake up call? Kind of a, "Hey, look at what your government is doing--it's letting these companies rob you blind, it's spying on your phone calls and Internet traffic, and is doing atrocious things around the world in your name. Wake up and do something about it because it's only going to get worse it you don't stop them now!"
If that was the message, we missed it. Instead of being the ice water that shocks us into awareness, it was a punch that knocked us to the mat. Instead of looking closer into the coup d'etat that turned our representative democracy into an imperial dictatorship, we rallied around the flag and our naked emperor; instead of letting our anger drive us toward demanding the truth, we let our fear force us into accepting a politically motivated lie; instead of clinging to the ideals and values that we, as Americans, have always cherished, we became willing to surrender our freedoms in exchange for security. And as Ben Franklin said, those who are willing to trade liberty for security, deserve and will have neither.
Personally, though, I think it's more like the man who will rob and rape a woman, then hand her a phone and tell her to call the cops because he is a cop and he knows that when his fellow officers show up, they are more likely to arrest her for trying to file a false police report than they are to arrest their buddy for his crime.
After all, anyone cynical enough to gut the Clean Air Act with something called the Clear Skies Initiative, is cynical enough to attack his own citizens (or at the very least, allow them to be attacked) on a day whose numbers match our emergency assistance line, don't you think?
Tuesday, November 13, 2007
The Value of Pain and Suffering
Pain, fear, guilt, anger, are all uncomfortable and unpleasant feelings to deal with. It's only natural to want to avoid suffering--the problem is that we can't. They are necessary to our growth as human beings and we avoid them at our peril. They are flashing red warning lights that something is wrong--in our bodies, our minds, our souls--and needs to be addressed. The intensity of the emotion indicates the urgency of addressing the problem.
We can avoid these emotions to a certain extent by using alcohol or drugs, but it's a short-term solution at best. Worse yet, chemically-assisted avoidance only brings with it another range of problems, which compounds the original problem and accelerates our ultimate self-destruction.
It's difficult to come to terms with such powerful, negative emotions precisely because they are powerful--they are primal forces in a modern world and they remind us that maybe, just maybe, we aren't so civilized after all. But we lock up so much of our creative and positive energy in trying to contain and deny these primitive, primal, uncomfortable emotions that we don't leave ourselves much that we can actually use to accomplish the great things we want to accomplish in our lives and our world.
It's also a matter of ego--we hate to admit that sometimes we hurt each other. We like to see ourselves as good people and we think that admitting the fact that sometimes we act spitefully would mean we aren't such good people after all. Why? What it wrong with admitting that we are human beings? Mortal, morally-fragile creatures who are driven as much by their emotions as by their minds?
I agree with Jung that avoiding legitimate suffering leads to mental illness. I have known a lot of people who are "mentally ill" and just about every one of them has some trauma in their life that they refuse to deal with. I understand why they do it--for some people, the pain or grief or anger or guilt is simply too powerful for them to come to terms with. But as hard as it is to face our suffering, to accept and even embrace it our negative emotions, it is absolutely necessary if we are ever going to be whole and healthy, either as individuals or a nation.
I think our nation is suffering from a collective case of PTSD, reeling from the shock of an attack that we did not see coming (although we would have, if we'd cared enough about anything outside our own narrow sphere of self-interest, but that's a topic for another day.) We need to stop paying mere lip-service to the suffering that began, for a lot of us, on 911 and actually start using those primal emotions as a motivation for action instead of an excuse for cowardice and inaction.
Sunday, November 11, 2007
Morals and Ethics
Take the issue of abortion: Morals (in this case, standards imposed by religious leaders) stress the quantity of life; ethics stress the quality of life. “Right-to-life” people are moral, but they are not particularly ethical--they protest abortion on the principle that abortion is murder, but it’s okay to bomb abortion clinics and murder doctors. They picket clinics in the name of defending the right of unwanted babies to be born regardless of the situation they will be born into. Yet these same people who insist on the “right-to-life” of every unborn child, generally support capital punishment and engaging in wars. To me, there is no difference between the taking of a life whether it’s done by a doctor, the State, or the Armed Forces. Ethics (standards imposed by personal integrity) stress that only those who have to bear the responsibility for their decisions have the right to make those decisions. They realize that forcing women to have children they can’t properly provide for, either financially or emotionally, condemns both the mother and the child (and whatever children she may already have) to a life of unnecessary suffering.
But it’s not really about the value of life itself; it’s about being able to impose your will on other people. The Church tells you a particular thing is wrong, rather than allowing you to decide for yourself, based on your individual circumstances.
Look at any “values” issue and think about the agenda it truly serves. Is it moral, or is it ethical? Is it based in a religious ideology trying to enforce a spiritual authority, or on personal integrity and the right of every individual to make their own decisions in matters that affect their own lives? Do you really want the government interfering in your intimate, personal matters? Once you give it that power, it will never give it up--what happens when it decides that you and your group (whatever it is) is a problem and needs to be eliminated? What if the government decides that your church is a cult? What if the government decides it should choose who you marry, what schools your children can go to (or whether you can have children at all), where you will work and for what wage? What if it decides to pass an amendment nullifying the second amendment because it’s too dangerous to allow ordinary citizens to own guns--after all, the terrorists might steal them and use them to harm us!!
I had a very strange dream several years ago and it is just as clear today:
I was in a baseball stadium in my home town. The stadium was full of people wearing buttons that said “Us.” All across the field where teams used to play baseball, were crosses, to which were nailed people wearing buttons that said “Them.” These crosses were set on fire and allowed to burn to ashes while the people nailed to them screamed out their agony and the people in the stands cheered with forced approval. From time to time, men in long black robes would go through the stands, rounding up everyone whose “Us” button had magically changed to a “Them” button. New crosses would be set up and people nailed to them and set alight. This went on and on until the stands were empty and only the men in the long black robes were left. They promptly began trying to kill each other.
It took me a minute of thinking to figure out what the dream meant. If you haven’t figured it out, it’s simply this: when you live in an Us-or-Them society, sooner or later, everyone is one of “Them,” including you.
Saturday, November 10, 2007
Politically Correct--Mentally Dishonest
The language we use, regardless of its origin, reveals much of how we think. If we use plain words to express simple thoughts in an honest and open way, the people we are speaking to able to understand us clearly. It shows that we respect the people we are trying to communicate with by because we tell them the truth in terms they can easily understand. When we use euphemisms, we insult the people we are talking to because we are implying that they either cannot understand what we really mean or that they cannot handle the truth when it is uncomfortable or unpleasant.
I’m not saying that we should not be considerate of others’ feelings in how we speak; I am saying that we should not consider those feelings to the point of being insulting or dishonest. Trying to soften a painful truth with pretty words does not make it any less painful, it only distances us from the pain which makes it much harder to come to terms with. Those who would chose a pretty lie over a painful truth do a disservice to the truth and to themselves.
There are some pretty simple rules that I follow when talking to other people:
1. Say what you mean and mean what you say. For example, always apologize when you can do it honestly, but never just because someone else insists that you do.
2. Speak clearly, using simple words to convey a clear thought. Impress people with your integrity, not your vocabulary.
3. Do not be afraid to call things what they are. For example, if someone is a cheat and a liar, don’t say they are “ethically challenged.”
4. Silence is sometimes the best answer. It’s better to say nothing than to tell a lie.
5. Don’t make other people lie by asking questions to which you can’t handle an honest answer. Don’t ask “does this make me look fat?” if you can’t handle being told that it does.
6. When someone asks you a question, especially about something you did or said, answer it honestly and directly. If your first impulse is to lie, for whatever reason, it's a tacit admission that you know what you did or said was wrong and you don't want to admit it.